Jun 192015
framing the debate

Elliot Roger | UC Santa Barbara Dylann Roof | Emanuel AME Church MAY 23, 2014 | 6 DEAD, 14 INJURED JUNE 17, 2015 | 9 DEAD Everyone: I guess we’ll never know why he did it. Shooter: I did it because I hate women. “Women are vicious, evil, barbaric animals, and they need to be treated as such.” Everyone: I guess we’ll never know. Everyone: I guess we’ll never know why he did it. Shooter: I did it because I hate black people. “I have to do it. You’re raping our women and taking over the country. You have to … [read more]

Jun 152015
your arguments suck: Game of Thrones edition

Since I’m only sadistic with willing partners, GoT season finale spoilers are hidden inside a clicky thingy. You may safely read on if you haven’t seen it yet. I’m not into fiction (not literature, television, or film) but I enjoy reading about fiction. Maybe that makes me a meta-consumer — a consumer of media about media. The amateur deconstructionist in me enjoys learning about the process of creating media and hearing people’s thoughts about the finished products. I’m into the nuts and bolts — the material (the scripts, locations, costumes, actors, framing, and editing that literally created the thing) and … [read more]

May 262015
I am not sex positive

I’m tired of the “everything is awesome” school of uncritical sex positivity. More than uncritical, sex positivity seems to actively discourage examination by dismissing any analysis that isn’t positive or neutral (beyond Your Kink Is Not My Kink) as kink-shaming or any number of other reductive dismissals that preclude critical examination or discussion. Potential counterpoints are addressed by building straw men easily dismissed as vanilla or prudish, or as ignorant, uninformed, or inexperienced. Actual counterpoints are automatically deemed kink shaming or censorship. If criticism is already assumed as coming from some position on a sliding scale of ignorance/inexperience to dislike/disgust, … [read more]

May 192015
allusion and appropriation

KinkBNB’s logo is terrible. First, and perhaps most egregious, is their use of Impact font — popularized by LOLcats, the typeface has been the standard for image macros and internet memes for the past decade. Impact font…. seriously? Like, were there no other simple sans-serif typefaces they could have chosen? While I can’t imagine the logic (if any) behind that choice, KinkBNB’s allusion to the Leather Pride Flag is as subtle as a sledgehammer (or perhaps, as subtle as a spanking). It would be disingenuous to say I carry no purposeful, physical markings of cultural identity, but I prefer to … [read more]

May 112015
KinkBNB: Airbnb for kinky fuckers

With companies debuting kinky dating apps, it was only a matter of time before someone launched a kinky version of Airbnb. KinkBNB is a pretty good business idea (damn good, actually), and while there’s the potential for similar problems as bookings on Airbnb, at least orgies won’t be unexpected (actually, KinkBNB hosts can indicate whether their listings are “orgy friendly”). The prices are surprisingly reasonable, ranging from $150 a night (Violet Room* in San Francisco, CA, which appears to be a private home) to $650 a night (Le Fleur De Lis Club in Redlands, CA, a well appointed commercial “dungeon”). … [read more]