May 232013
BDSM Lexicon Entry #24: Aftercare

aftercare, n.: Support, attention, or care administered at the conclusion of BDSM activities; often includes chocolate milk, fruit snacks, and fingerpainting.

“After seeing my submissive’s ass after the caning scene, I realized the box of SpongeBob band-aids I brought for aftercare wasn’t going to be enough.”

“When boy started screaming his safeword, I realized my attempt at aftercare was a miserable failure. Who knew rubbing alcohol could sting so much?”… [read more]

Dec 102012
BDSM Lexicon Entry #23: BDSM capitalization

BDSM capitalization, n.: The annoying practice of fucking up standard rules of pronoun capitalization in order to indicate role or status. (because you and your dominance or you and your submission are WAY too important to adhere to normative grammar…)

“BDSM capitalization is a way of showing respect to a dominant by taking a metaphorical dump on the rules of standard English grammar.”… [read more]

Nov 092012
BDSM Lexicon Entry #22: Protocol

protocol, n.: in the context of D/s, protocol is a set rules (based on role) that govern an individual’s conduct.

“I wasn’t able to get a hold of my boy to tell him I had invited a colleague home to dinner. When I opened the door, he was on his knees, buck naked, with a plug in his ass. Despite my explanation, my colleague wasn’t impressed by boy’s adherence to protocol.” … [read more]

Sep 302012
BDSM Lexicon Entry #21: Hard and Soft Limits

hard limit, n.: An activity or practice that is absolutely off-limits for a player.

soft limit, n.: An activity or practice that may be negotiated or engaged in under special circumstances.

“No, I’m really sorry, but having sex with you is one of my hard limits. I just can’t do it.”… [read more]

Jun 072012
BDSM Lexicon Entry #20: Subspace

subspace, n.: Space where you put your sub when you’re not using him.

“Because of the sandy soil here in the south, we don’t have basements, so I’ll have to find some other subspace for storing J when I’m not using him. Maybe I’ll keep him in a closet in one of the spare bedrooms.” … [read more]