Nov 212014
10 things I realized (later than I should have)

10 things I realized later in life than I should have. (in no particular order) We are not “human beans” If I have the presence of mind to compensate for my physiological tell, I am an excellent liar. “Mannequin” is not an acceptable career choice. I have terrible rhythm. There is no “statue of limitations.” People rarely care (or love, or hate) as much as I think they do. I throw a wicked left hook. Sometimes it doesn’t matter how hard you try or how much you love something. Sometimes being good at it is all that matters. Despite what … [read more]

Nov 162014

Throughout our relationship, I was diligent about never asking J for things he wouldn’t do, or couldn’t do. I never asked him to put me above his work, his dreams, or his plans — not even in small ways. I never called on him in such a way that he was forced to choose between what he should do, what he needed to do, and what I wanted him to do. It’s not that I never needed him — I did — I just never asked. In part, it’s because I never wanted to put him in that position, and … [read more]

Nov 152014

(Habits) Stay High, Tove Lo You’re gone and I gotta stay High all the time To keep you off my mind High all the time To keep you off my mind Spend my days locked in a haze Trying to forget you babe I fall back down Gotta stay high all my life To forget I’m missing you       stay high was last modified: December 17th, 2014 by Dumb Domme

Nov 102014
reader questions: bears, biology, and "babygirls"

Bears, Boilers, Babygirls, Biology, and Board Games Today’s reader questions are brought to you by the letter “B.” Could you make me a chocolate teddy bear please? FFS. Now is not the time for ambiguity! Do you want me to make you a chocolate teddy bear? Or make you into a chocolate teddy bear? By chocolate, do you mean a flavor? Or a color? I can’t possibly help you if you don’t give me all the information. Since your question is wide open for interpretation, I’m going to have to use my judgment. Go sit in a double boiler and … [read more]

Nov 062014
response: a feminist's perspective on anti-feminist inaccuracies

Yesterday over on Malflic, Alice King — who does not identify as a feminist — posted A Females Perspective on Extreme Feminists. In it, she offers criticisms of feminism, and more specifically, “the feminist movement.” She addresses feminism as if it’s a singular, unified, coherent monolith with agreed upon goals, approaches, and beliefs, most of which are extreme, anti-male, and completely counter to what most feminists endorse. She also discusses the need for gender bias in certain professions and her concerns over men’s rights and false rape allegations. I appreciate that Alice invites discussion, despite her allusion to past negative … [read more]