Jan 162014
sad, angry masturbation

I’ve published almost 500 posts. More than 200 are unpublished. Of course, some of the unpublished drafts are a couple of sentences with some idea I was toying with or some event I found noteworthy at the time. But at least half of them are honest-to-goodness drafts of things I intended to finish and post, but never did. Sometimes when I returned to a draft, I didn’t feel the same way about it – my thinking had changed. Other times, I hated what I said, how I said it, or what it meant about the sort of person I am. … [read more]

Jan 152014
e[lust] #54: sex, sex, sex... and kinky fuckery

Photo courtesy of Gritty Woman Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #55? Start with the rules, come back February 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ How children will break UK Internet filters. Submissive, Not Passive When Sex and Disabilities Collide ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ Tribute to … [read more]

Jan 132014
Qs and As: stress, skywriting, symbolism, strapons, and submissive solicitation

On this thirteeth day of January in the year two-thousand fourteen, Dumb Domme declared “Let there be an A for every Q!” Do you feel d/s is stress relieving and makes you and J less neurotic? Neurotic? Who ever said I was neurotic? I’m not at all neurotic. Why? Are people saying I’m neurotic? Do you think I’m neurotic? Honestly, the idea that I’m neurotic is ridiculous… I’m not neurotic… I am soooo not neurotic… *twitch* No, I don’t feel a D/s relationship dynamic is stress relieving. In some ways, D/s is more stressful than a traditional, vanilla dynamic, and … [read more]

Jan 112014
larger than life

In my mind, I tower over him. I am longer, leaner, stronger, and he has no choice but to exist within my shadow. I am imposing — at least as large as my will to move him. In my mind, my hands are enormous. They are strong, persuasive, unyielding and he no choice but to be malleable within them. My hands are massive — big enough to wrap around his throat. In my mind, I am overwhelming. I toss him like a rag doll and he lands tangled on the bed. I am monstrous — more powerful than the strength … [read more]

Jan 082014
giving more is not an option; it's a necessity

submissive says: on submission and inevitable endings (J responds to reader questions) Q: Knowing your relationship with DD will end when you move to the west coast, and that it isn’t at some nebulous point indefinitely far down the road, are you doing anything differently to embrace what you have while you have it, and to make the most of it? It seems like DD is being conscious of not denying herself the pleasures that your limited remaining time together affords the two of you. Congratulations on whatever professional development it is that is taking you far away from her, … [read more]