Dec 162014
seek her as silver

If you seek her as silver, And search for her as for hidden treasures; Then you will understand the fear of the Lord, And find the knowledge of God.   Proverbs 2:4-5 was my first calligraphy project good enough to display — I put it in a lead crystal Mikasa frame that became mine after my grandmother died. It’s been on walls (or shelves) in nearly every place I’ve lived since I moved out of my parents’ house at age sixteen. It was in my freshman dorm room, and later, in the college apartment I shared with friends. The ridiculously heavy frame … [read more]

Dec 102014
contemplating the divine?

I am not a religious girl. I had more than my fair share of religion as a child, and as an adult, I’ve seen the damage it’s done to people I love and whole countries of people I’ll never know. But I was raised in religion, and perhaps that explains some of the reason I’m drawn to religious imagery — the art, the language, the mythology — all of it. It doesn’t turn me on, per se. “Turn-on” isn’t the right word for it. It’s more that I find it… erotically compelling. Is erotically compelling a thing? If it isn’t, it should be. I … [read more]

Dec 062014
manners, metaphors, and main courses

Reader questions on good manners, dominant women and PIV sex, and D/s as dinner. Do you think its good to answer all women with yes ma’am and no ma’am instead of just yea/yes? Thanks. No. But you should always use good manners and be polite (to everyone). What form politeness takes should be governed by the situation and the person with whom you are speaking. Before you succeeded at orgasm, was your control over J’s body a serviceable substitute for a place you couldn’t reach? What I’ve seen may be more anecdotal than I know; dommes claiming that PIV doesn’t … [read more]

Nov 262014
Jian Ghomeshi and a critique of BDSM defenses

Today, former CBC radio host Jian Ghomeshi is out on $100,000 bail after surrendering himself to Toronto Police this morning. He is charged with four counts of sexual assault[1] and one count of “overcome resistance – choking.”[2] According to his lawyer, Marie Henein, Ghomeshi will plead “not-guilty,” and is due to appear in court on January 8th. If, somehow, you’ve missed the news coverage, Ghomeshi was fired by the CBC after three women filed reports accusing him of sexual assault. In an attempt to get a statement out in advance of the CBC, Ghomeshi took to Facebook to deny the … [read more]

Nov 242014
"I don't wanna be a cuckold!"

Today’s reader question is from Hesitant Husband (who does NOT want to relocate to Cuckold Canyon, CO.) My wife is naturally dominate. I like playing around but I’m not into the whole cuck thing. I couldn’t deal with that. If we continue playing around I’m not going to end up like her bitch or a cuck am I? That is not what I want and I don’t think she would want to either. Femdom isn’t a chronic illness that starts with a command and ends with a locked cock and a dildo in your ass. Just because you and your … [read more]