Reader questions on good manners, dominant women and PIV sex, and D/s as dinner.
No. But you should always use good manners and be polite (to everyone). What form politeness takes should be governed by the situation and the person with whom you are speaking.
I get that I write about really personal stuff on the internet, but still, this question feels invasive. I haven’t talked about the orgasm project lately, and you haven’t provided any context for the question… and I’m not even sure I understand it (it is literal? or metaphorical?). Anyway, I’m not going to answer it…
Oh… oh god… oh god…
I just came.
Saying “no” turns me on. Sorry… what was the question?
Um, anyway… lots of women have trouble achieving orgasm (particularly with a partner). While individual women have individual experiences, generally, whether a woman identifies as dominant or submissive makes no difference.
Thank you for the kind words! While I have achieved success in a variety of arenas, metaphors isn’t one of them. :)
I’ll give it a shot though… failure is part of my charm, right?
I don’t like the “main course” idea because it implies that if you don’t have it, you’re waiting for it… and that you’re hungry for it (as if there’s something missing). I’m not sure I like “dessert” either, because it feels like something extra, but less important than the main course.
I guess I’d like to think of life as tapas — small dishes of this or that. Tapas isn’t any particular course or flavor, but a style of service and dining. According to Wikipedia, the most respected source on things I’m not so sure about,
“In Spain, patrons of tapas can order many different tapas and combine them to make a full meal. [. . .] The serving of tapas is designed to encourage conversation, because people are not so focused upon eating an entire meal that is set before them.”
You can enjoy each tapas dish by itself, or enjoy the way they complement each other. And, since everything is roughly the same size and same value, you can focus on enjoying what’s in front of you at the moment (and you should, because sometimes the service is awful and it takes forever for the next one to arrive).
And also, tapas was meant to be enjoyed with drinks… and I like drinks.
Actually, fuck tapas. I’ll just take the drinks.