May 272014
want me to be dominant? let me take the lead

In the past few months, J has been traveling and attending to all the stuff involved in preparation for a major life change. There were several instances when he was out of contact for days. I’m absolutely okay with that. I don’t need constant attention, and I don’t need daily check-ins to be reassured I’m on his mind. That sort of perfunctory contact comes less from affection than obligation, and I prefer the former to the latter. I don’t want to be something he has to check off his to-do list, and I certainly don’t want him on mine. He’s … [read more]

May 212014
the space between and the hair that's there

the space between and the hair that’s there or, “Stupid Search Terms: Razors and Holes Edition” What follows are actual search terms people that brought people to my website. Yeah, sure, I know they were search engine queries, but that won’t stop me from responding. i can’t see behind my vagina to shave my asshole I know, right? I still get occasional nicks when I shave my legs with a razor… and I can see my legs. It would be nice to get visual confirmation of the target before swatting at it with a razor. FYI, don’t bother trying to back … [read more]

May 192014
narcissism, insecurity, and indifference

At this point in time, J has known about the blog for longer than he didn’t know about the blog. I wrote in secret for 15 months before J stumbled on my writing (that was about a year and a half ago). While I was content to keep my writing secret, some part of me hoped J might find it because it shows off some of what I like most about myself — thoughtfulness, curiosity, humor, and (sometimes) facility with language. I wanted him to see those things in me, not only because I value them, but because he does … [read more]

May 172014
e[lust] #58

Welcome to Elust #58 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #59? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ Do NOT take my rapeplay fantasy away from me! Pulp Fiction “O” is for Outlaw No More ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ The Second Letter The … [read more]

May 152014
bad domme, bad sub, or bad dynamic?

Today’s reader question is from May B. Bad Domme from miles outside of FemDomNation. Both she and her husband have expectations that aren’t being met; May B. isn’t sure whether she’s a bad domme or her husband is a bad submissive. Dumb Domme, A year ago, my husband approached me about his desire to serve as my submissive. After many discussions about what our relationship would consist of, we agreed a legitimate 24/7 lifestyle would make us happy. Although I take our busy schedules into account (he works over 40 hours a week; I go to school full-time, take care … [read more]