A reader writes in to give me some advice…
So… you’re saying who I love should be more important than what I love… because it’s just that simple, right?
Not only that, but you’re telling me I should quit my job, abandon my career, and give up everything I’ve worked for to move across the country with J… because that always works out, right? Because people who sacrifice everything to be with their partners never end up resentful or bitter…right?
Wait… Why do I have to be the one to move with J?
Why the fuck didn’t you tell J to stay here with me?
Oh, right… I forgot. In a (heterosexual) relationship, both the man and the woman are supposed to do what’s in the ‘greater good.’ Only the ‘greater good’ isn’t always greater — it’s usually just ‘his.’ She’s supposed to make sacrifices, give up her career, and leave her home in service of ‘their’ goals. Only ‘their’ goals are really ‘his’ goals because she ceases to exist when the “he” and “she” become “them.”
Fuck you for your simple-minded romantic idealism, and fuck you for your sexist, tacit endorsement of women’s subservience to men. (Honestly, I don’t know which of the two is worse?) Fuck you, anonymous fuckstick, but also, kudos for managing to be offensive on multiple levels.
What might be worse, though, is that you probably think you’re being nice, don’t you? You probably think you’re being helpful by passing on your wisdom… right?
Let me disabuse you of those notions. You aren’t being nice, and your ‘humble opinion’ isn’t all that humble (saying it doesn’t make it so). You aren’t being helpful, either, because spouting off some bullshit about love that wouldn’t make it to the inside of a knockoff Hallmark card isn’t wise — it’s vapid, cheap, and woefully (or willfully) ignorant of the complexity of human beings and life in general.
I don’t know if you’re male, female, or non-binary, but I know for a fact that you’re a twat-level-ten douchebag. Take your douchebaggery elsewhere, anon. It’s not welcome here.