Apr 292014
come to me with your pride intact

Come to me with your pride intact. I won’t take it from you and I won’t keep it — I’ll only manage it for a while. In my care, you will be handled softly, shaped slowly, bent lovingly until my will is yours — and your pride is mine. At evening’s end, if we’ve made good on promises, both will be returned to us stronger than before. thumbnail image: “Lions of Longleat” © Pam Brophy, licensed under Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 2.0 Generic (CC BY-SA 2.0) come to me with your pride intact was last modified: April 29th, 2014 by Dumb … [read more]

Apr 252014
on the edge (touch your cock for me)

I had edged him over and over again in the hours that came before. He was pliant for the moment, but with no release, he was near the point where his want jams up against his willingness to obey me. I love that point — it’s where I get to watch the struggle in his head. “Touch your cock for me.” He was quick to comply, pinning his cock between the knuckles of both hands. With his thumbs, he caught the flesh of his frenum and applied pressure, squeezing and pinching hard, exactly as I’ve instructed him. When he hurts … [read more]

Apr 222014
Scenes from an <del>Italian Restaurant</del> Hipster Gastropub

I play pretend — a dress up Domme in too-tall shoes and borrowed attitude. I wear wedges and a black cotton sundress (not stilettos and a corset). It’s a compromise between ‘doing Domme’ (my way) and accommodating my uncoordination. We both know what I am — I am not a Domme. I am his Domme, and for that, I’m glad. It’s a position I adore, and one I own, but also one that encompasses both my fine points and my flaws (some of which are outside standard deviation for the role). I don’t enjoy making decisions about where to go … [read more]

Apr 182014
On domestic service, stealth submission, and women's invisible labor (and why it's bullshit)

I’m so fucking sick of this “domestic servitude” bullshit… because it’s bullshit.* In a heterosexual, vanilla relationship where both partners take on traditional gender roles, the woman does the bulk of the household chores to make the home functional, clean, and organized. When she does this kind of work, it’s called “doing chores,” or “housework.” Sometimes it isn’t called anything at all because it’s invisible labor — it’s stuff that gets done despite the fact that there’s no remuneration, no deadlines, and no real payoff. She gets shit done because shit needs doing. In a heterosexual, kinky relationship where the … [read more]

Apr 162014
e[lust] #57: blogging, blues, and Barbie bitches

Welcome to Elust #57 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #58? Start with the rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~ I’ve Got 99 Problems Vasectomy Blues I’ve always wanted to call myself queer. ~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~ Aoyama Yuki and My Very First Times I … [read more]