Jan 302014
shared custody

Sometime during middle school, our teacher pulled an ancient incubator out of the supply closet and prepared us for our upcoming “adoption” of twelve fertilized chicken eggs. (In hindsight, getting a dozen eggs for hatching seems like a sad irony.) After checking our eggs for signs of life nearly every day for what seemed like an eternity, we finally saw the first tiny beak break through. In the days that followed, seven other tiny beaks made for eight hatchlings in all. After we mourned the loss of four unhatched chicks, Mr. Santos divided the class into groups and assigned a … [read more]

Jan 252014
my lion is fed

My lion is fed, I sleep at his side. Jack Kerouac, Dharma Bums Long and languid at evenings end, I sprawl across the linens feeling twice my size and half my weight. He curls into my side, collapsing in upon himself. Head heavy on my breast, arm draped across my body — I am the frame on which he hangs himself to keep his shape intact. archive view image: “Sleeping Lion” by SonNy cZ, 2007. Courtesy of Wikimedia Commons. (Public Domain) my lion is fed was last modified: February 6th, 2014 by Dumb Domme

Jan 232014
how to be a good submissive

Despite being impossibly vague, I made J respond to this reader question anyway. (I was curious about how he’d respond.) Today’s Q & J is on how to be a good submissive. Q: How did you become a good sub? I want to please but I am just terrible. Please help. ~ anonymous, via contact form If I knew of a one-size-fits-all method for becoming a good sub, I’d be a thousandaire. But, I would say a lot of what shapes my behavior is based on who the dominant female is. There are four general points I’ll make that do … [read more]

Jan 192014
things you shouldn't say while you're having sex

(presented with very little context…) Things You Should NEVER Say While You’re Having Sex: “This is just like one of those putt-putt mini golf ball-washer things!” “Does your balls need washing?” [sic], Melinda Matthews, 2007. things you shouldn’t say while you’re having sex was last modified: January 19th, 2014 by Dumb Domme

Jan 162014
sad, angry masturbation

I’ve published almost 500 posts. More than 200 are unpublished. Of course, some of the unpublished drafts are a couple of sentences with some idea I was toying with or some event I found noteworthy at the time. But at least half of them are honest-to-goodness drafts of things I intended to finish and post, but never did. Sometimes when I returned to a draft, I didn’t feel the same way about it – my thinking had changed. Other times, I hated what I said, how I said it, or what it meant about the sort of person I am. … [read more]