J answers your questions about leaving, forced-baldness, and D/s compatibility…
Q: How do you feel about leaving? ~ anonymous
I’m gutted about leaving. To call the time I’ve have had with D ‘special’ would be as cliche as it is unworthy of the actual experience; but I almost felt trapped into tapping out such a hackneyed phrase. Why, you ask? Because when attempting to describe the time we’ve had together and the relationship that’s developed, I begin to use superlatives and absolutes, which of course, do more to undermine serious sentiment than the weariest of cliches.
Here is a list comprised primarily of adjectives and verbs: scorched, whimpering, fuck, begging, abuse, sweetness, compassion, want, need, please, kill, me, just, after, you, come.
Oops, did I just say that out loud?
So… um, yeah…I’m deeply conflicted about moving away. However, both of us are as heavily invested in our careers as we are passionate about pursuing them. D’s career necessitates she stay in Florida while mine requires a move to California. Professionally speaking, the situation sucks. Personally speaking, the situation really, fucking sucks…
Q: First are you bald? I am picturing you bald because you pulled your hair out arguing semantics with D *giggles*
Okay now for my serious question. Were you afraid when you first started being in a D/s relationship with D that she would discover suddenly she didn’t like D/s and wasn’t compatible in that area? ~ Mysticlez
Nope, I have a full head of hair. Well, I ‘had’ a full head of hair earlier this week. A few days ago, D decided to shave off the majority of my body hair before waxing the pink parts. For the record, I took the waxing ‘like a man’ for the most part. Explaining the ‘Mr Clean’ look at work was interesting. Also, your question regarding semantics is funnier than you know; well, it’s funny to one of us.
But onto your serious question of my fearing she would dislike D/s after trying it — the answer is yes. For a period of time, I was not sure if some part of D was ‘humoring me.’ That seems silly now, but at the time, I was genuinely concerned she was simply ‘going through the motions’ until she’d had enough.
Of course, when I brought it up, she would often do something perverse and cruel, then grind her wetness against me, and ask if I still had any questions.
Another concern I had was something else that has happened to me in the past: the dreaded ‘I think I might be a switch’ conversation. But I can now tell you with confidence it will be below freezing in Miami on the day D says she’s thinking she wants to be someone’s submissive.
He’s kidding about the waxing.
He did not take it like a man.