Nov 072013
 

J answers your questions and responds to your insults.


Q: So… Umm… Is DD as hot as I’ve always pictured in my head? She’s ridiculously good looking right? That’s all I got ;) ~ Becca
I have no idea just how hot D is in your head, but I can confirm she is ridiculously good looking. She is beautiful, smoking hot, and dead sexy. She also happens to be really fucking smart, which makes her even hotter.
P.S. It is weird to know people picture my girlfriend. Please do not write and tell me what you picture her doing, I do not want to know.
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Q: Why do you put up with this bitch? Have you got bollocks?  ~ anonymous
Hi there, anonymous fucktard. 99% of the time, I’m content with the internet being anonymous.
But then I get dimwitted cunts like yourself calling my girlfriend a ‘bitch’, and all I want is your address, a few gallons liters of gasoline petrol, and the last few minutes of your life, so you can take a gander at my ‘bollocks’.
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Q: Are you comfortable with the way male submission fits with conventional notions of ‘masculinity’? Do you attempt consciously to subvert such notions? ~ GrumpyOldSwitch
Of all the questions asked, this was my favorite as I think about ideas like this regularly. While unable to articulate a complete, satisfactory answer, I’m going to do my best.
First, ‘masculinity’ and the code of behavior associated with what ‘real men’ do or do not do are performance in response to cultural norms. As it is more likely than not you and I are on the same page regarding the ‘brass tacks’ that underpin this question, I’ll spare you further qualifiers and definitions.
The short answer is no, I don’t do a damn thing to purposefully undermine such notions. The overwhelming majority of my vanilla friends, acquaintances, and colleagues perceive me as a ‘normal guy’. Of course, even that term is problematic, but let’s not go there. In short, I feel most comfortable performing in a accordance with conventional notions of masculinity (Sounds like I’m complying with federal law or something, right?)
That said, I certainly go out of my way to support those tops/bottoms who choose act on their chosen position in public or the workplace (as long as it does not disrupt others). I am supportive of individuals ability to perform and construct themselves however they please.
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  7 Responses to “sub say what? I have beauty, he has bollocks”

  1. Ohh, sigh and squee all! Also Hot!
    I have never pictured D, but I sure as hell have pictured my own version of J based on D’s writing. And he does not disappoint. Just thought I’d lead with creepy!
    I heartily approve of the language/response to anonymous.
    As this blog was my first introduction to to a more fulfilling life and that I’m not a freak, or at least not totally, thank you for your thoughtfulness. Glad to finally hear from you. I owe both of you a good deal of gratitude.

    • As this blog was my first introduction to to a more fulfilling life and that I’m not a freak, or at least not totally, thank you for your thoughtfulness. Glad to finally hear from you. I owe both of you a good deal of gratitude.

      Thank you, Allegra. I appreciate your kind words more than you know. :)

  2. Hi J,

    Thanks for the compliment and for the fullness of your reply.

    May I ask one more question?

    Apart from your behaviour in the public arena, do you feel that your relationship with DD in private in any way implicitly or even explicitly subverts or ‘queers’ patriarchal stereotyping? Or does the thought not even enter your head?

  3. Great responses, J! It’s nice to “hear” from you. Yes, I’m one of those readers who thinks your girlfriend is really hot. And I didn’t realize how potentially creepy that was until right this very minute.

    Speaking of girlfriend, do you ever pause when you call her your “girlfriend?” Referring to sir as my boyfriend gives me a serious case of the giggles, but I lack a better term for the vanilla world. The label feels like it’s only scratching the surface of what we mean to each other. I was wondering if I was the only submissive who felt that way.

  4. Good questions, great answers…and *shaking my head*…the audacity of some people hiding pure mean rudeness under the guise of “anonymous”…as if that is all that is needed for someone to be able to say any old thing to any person they ‘meet’ on the internet. O, of *course* I can say to each their own, but really, people. Manners are there for a reason and they belong in use *all* the time.

    *stepping off my soapbox*

    I love reading here though I comment very little. I love your adventures and sexcapades…and the very realness with which DD writes. Thanks J for your contribution though I have no questions for you. :)

    nilla

  5. Such a nice thing – to see his perspective and wit in play

  6. “But then I get dimwitted cunts like yourself calling my girlfriend a ‘bitch’, and all I want is your address, a few liters of petrol, and the last few minutes of your life, so you can take a gander at my ‘bollocks’.”

    Knight takes pawn to protect Queen. Well played, Mr. J, well played!

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