Today’s reader question is from Degree-Seeking Domme in State College, PA. DSD wants to hear some words of wisdom for a university-bound dominant woman.
- Learn the difference between advise and advice. Advice is a noun. Advise is a verb.
- If you go to parties or bars, keep an eye on your drinks. Make your own if you can, and don’t leave it for a second.
- Fuck being a ‘Domme’ in college — be a student instead. Quit worrying about D/s, dating, and relationships. You’re supposed to be going to college to learn a discipline… not to date.1 While I realize college is important for socialization (or some such crap people tell you during orientation week), that’s not what you’re there for.
- Study hard. Read lots. Suck every bit of information out of every professor and classmate and experience you can. ‘Great times’ are fleeting and friends are fickle, but knowledge and critical thinking are tools you’ll use for a lifetime.
- If you’re shit at math, take probability. It’s the easiest.
 Yeah, yeah. I know college is important for ‘figuring yourself out.’ It’s important for friendships and for exploring your sexuality, etc. However, that’s not the primary purpose of college, nor (in my opinion) should that be the focus. You can ‘find yourself,’ develop friendships, and explore your sexuality later (or secondarily to your studies). But, you can’t devote four years of your life, pay bucketloads of money, and immerse yourself in learning again later on. College is a once in a lifetime chance — make the best of the opportunities you have in the time you’re there.