Jul 102013
 


I’m half woman, half dominant, and half ninja.

That’s right motherfuckers, I have three halves.

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As promised, I’m going to let you in on a few of my ninja-domme pressure point secrets. Ok, fine, pressure points aren’t really a secret, but I’m surprised there isn’t more information available on using pressure points as part of BDSM play… and that’s a damn shame!

Using pressure points is lots of fun. It makes for happy sadists and for exceptionally compliant submissives. The best part is that it requires so little effort to accomplish so much. :)

Dumb Domme Personal Note

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Got it? If you decide to do something stupid, don’t blame me because I’m going to claim ignorance. Seriously… ignorance is built into my URL. It’s the title of the whole fucking website. It’s on you… so poke your submissive at your own risk.

Pressure Points for BDSM

If you read my warning and you’re still here, what the fuck is wrong with you? allow me to make a recommendation.

Find these pressure points on your body before you try finding them on a partner’s body. They’re easier to locate if you’re the one providing the stimulus and having the response. (Otherwise, you’ll just up randomly poking at your submissive, and that’s only amusing for for a little while… ten minutes, tops.)

After you find the pressure points on your own body, hurt yourself. I’m serious. I’m no masochist, but it’s a good idea to get a feel for how much pressure it takes to hurt a little, and how much it takes to hurt a lot — sometimes it’s not as much as you’d think. (Tell me, are you hurting yourself right now? You are? Oh… it’s so fucking hot when you hurt yourself for me… )

Anyway, without further stalling, below are five pressure points that I find useful during playtime. :)

TMJ (mandibular nerve and mastoid process):

With your index finger, touch the bottom of your earlobe, move your finger down half an inch. From there:

skull-4(mandibular nerve): Move your finger forward (towards your face) a half an inch or less. Apply pressure to the very top of the lower jawbone. Or, apply apply slight upwards pressure just above the bone and under the earlobe.

(TMJ “hollow”): Move your finger back (away from your face) one inch and press in towards your neck. Apply pressure to the “hollow” spot (it’s a really weird feeling)

(mastoid process): With your finger on the hollow, apply pressure in and forwards (toward your face, underneath the jawbone), or apply pressure upwards to the bone just above the hollow spot.

potential uses: Applying pressure to the mandibular nerve can encourage a submissive to open his or her mouth. Manipulating the TMJ hollow and mastoid process is is particularly useful if you have small hands and want to hold your sub by the throat in a meaningful way. Face your sub and square your shoulders up to theirs. If you’re right handed, use the middle and index fingers of your right hand to apply pressure to the TMJ point on your sub’s left side (your right side). Alternately, depending on your body positions (if you aren’t facing  straight on), you can use the thumb of your right hand to apply pressure to the TMJ point on their right (your left).

BDSM-pressure-points-3Collarbone (brachial plexus):

Place your index, middle, and ring finger on your collarbone. Move up (towards your head) a half inch until your fingers are in the soft hollow just above the collarbone. Apply pressure inwards and down behind the collarbone.

potential uses: When your sub is standing or on his or her knees, you can apply pressure to this point (almost pulling them by the collarbone) while guiding them forward with your other hand behind their neck or back.

Hand (radial nerves):

Hold your hand in front of you, palm down, with fingers spread. Place the thumb of your other hand on the knuckle of your ring finger (the knuckle in your hand, not in your finger. With your thumb, follow that bone towards your wrist about an inch and apply pressure. You can wrap the fingers of your active hand (the one doing the hurting) around the palm of the passive hand (the hand being hurt) and squeeze to apply pressure to that nerve with your thumb. Alternately, you can place your passive hand on a flat surface (palm down, fingers spread), and apply pressure straight down with the thumb of the active hand.

potential uses: This is useful if your sub tries to grab you or hold you by your wrist. With your free hand, use your thumb to apply pressure here, wrap your fingers around their palm, and pull yourself free. (This can be used in combination with the “weak link” theory to help you free yourself from a wrist grab).

Elbow (ulnar and radial nerves):

ulnar-nerve-pointOn the inside of the elbow, there’s a whole mess of tendons, ligaments, and nerves that connect to muscles everywhere else. To find the ulnar nerve, hold your arm straight out, parallel to the floor. Keeping your upper arm parallel to the floor, bend your elbow 90 degrees. With the thumb of your other hand, find the knobby bone that is most prominent on the inside of your elbow. Move your thumb towards your body one inch and down towards the floor one-half inch. With your thumb, apply pressure there.

potential uses: Applying pressure to the ulnar nerve is useful when you want to control a sub’s arm, particularly in the process of holding them still while they are being tied. If you’re tying your sub’s arms to something (like bedposts), just put your knee down on the inside of their elbow. If you’re tying them with their arms folded and/or close to their body, holding their elbow while applying pressure to the ulnar nerve can help you to diminish their range of motion and encourage them to keep the arm close to their body (for more secure, tighter bondage).

Thigh Crease (ilioinguinal and genitofemoral nerves):

Just like the inside of the elbow, the thigh crease is home to a mess of tendons, ligaments, and nerves that connect a bunch of stuff to a bunch of other stuff (does it really fucking matter what that stuff is called? What, like ‘genitofemoral’ wasn’t enough for you?). Finding a painful pressure point here is pretty easy. While you’re laying down, place your fingers (any or all) into the crease where your thigh meets your abdomen. Apply pressure… anywhere. Apply pressure and wiggle your fingertips around in there. It hurts.

potential uses: Pain. Besides causing someone pain, I haven’t found anything else this is useful for (not that pain isn’t fun and useful all by itself…).

 

  14 Responses to “pressure points for BDSM play: they’re entertaining and effective!”

  1. Interesting info and wonderfully presented! Who knew anatomy could be so much fun! (it wasn’t the first time I took it.) However, I particularly looooved your hilarious, rhyming Disclaimer. I found myself compelled to murmur it out loud! :)

  2. First with the “pilling your pet” and now with the “poking” your pet. Sigh…. D, really, your inspiration is thoroughly… um, painful. AND ENJOYABLE. Really. There’s absolutely no sarcasm in any part of this comment. Right. xo ~H

    • Sarcasm? From you? Never. :)

      If you get, um, poked, you’ll have to let me know how it goes! (I was surprised at how turned on I got when I read you had been ‘pilled’… no joke… It got me kinda hot and bothered! Of course, I’m self-centered and sadistic… so, I guess it makes sense…) ;)

  3. What half do I get? *smiles* There is also one right inside your legs which is useful if he/she wraps their legs around you and you want to free yourself.

    Respectfully,
    mysticlez

  4. gosh you crack me up…so there I am humming “we didn’t start the fire” and now that will be a frigging songworm all night (if ever there was empirical proof of you sadism…this is it. :) ) and giggling. And then I read the one on the tmj joint (yes, He did use that one before) and the finger one. well fuck. is there a manual for this stuff? coz I think He read it already (or maybe it was just his special forces training)…

    nilla

    • I am humming “we didn’t start the fire” and now that will be a frigging songworm all night (if ever there was empirical proof of you sadism…this is it.

      Ha! Yes! Infecting others with annoying earworms is a particular brand of sadistic! Speaking of, I once considering making J do karaoke as a punishment… I fucking LOVE karaoke, but he’d rather have me shove bamboo splinters under his fingernails (pain really is subjective, isn’t it?) :)

      is there a manual for this stuff? coz I think He read it already (or maybe it was just his special forces training)…

      I’ve seen one or two advertisements for in-person pressure point/BDSM workshops, but there isn’t much actual information available online. Strange!

      Also, yes… I’m going to guess special force training comes in handy. Also, special forces = fucking hot… :)

  5. Thank you so much for that post.

    You worte: “I’m surprised there isn’t more information available on using pressure points as part of BDSM play… and that’s a damn shame!” I totally agree!

    A part of BDSM play is inflicting pain, isn’t it? And one can inflict pain with pressure points in a very special way. I admire martial arts women and dominant women but there seem to be not many who like to combine their martial arts skills with domination play. So your sub is a lucky guy.

    For me it’s like a kind of magic to see a woman inflicting pain or causing unvoluntary reactions on a bigger guy with so little effort. It doubles the domination factor.

    Would be great to read more about your experiences in pressure pointing unruly guys.

    • A part of BDSM play is inflicting pain, isn’t it?

      For some, and certainly, for me. :)

      I admire martial arts women and dominant women but there seem to be not many who like to combine their martial arts skills with domination play. So your sub is a lucky guy.

      Thank you. I’d like to think he is a very lucky guy. :)

  6. Thanks! this is exactly the info I was looking for. I’ve been trying to figure out how my top managed to make my leg collapse in pain with just a touch. He was trying to force me to hang from his ropes and not support myself with my legs. So there’s a potential use (in addition to his just being a mean old sadist).

    • Thanks! this is exactly the info I was looking for. I’ve been trying to figure out how my top managed to make my leg collapse in pain with just a touch. He was trying to force me to hang from his ropes and not support myself with my legs. So there’s a potential use (in addition to his just being a mean old sadist).

      Dammit! I hadn’t thought of the consequences of this information getting into the wrong hands! I should have marked it “for sadist’s only.”

      My bad. I’ll know better for next time. ;)

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