Jul 052013
 

Over on Reddit, someone asked this question in the Femdom Community subreddit: “How do you feel about a male sub offering some resistance during play, such that you need to work a little before he submits?”*

My response:

“I’ve had extensive training in joint manipulation. Resistance is futile…”

Of course, there’s a difference between resistance and resistance, but that’s another topic for another time.

I'm a ninja, motherfuckers!   (high heels optional)

I’m a ninja, motherfuckers!
(high heels optional)

Today, I’m outing myself as a ninja.

Ok, ok. Fine. That’s not really true. I’m not really a ninja (except in my mind). What is true is that I’ve had training in pressure points and joint manipulation, and based on my very limited experience, I’ve found it to be a useful skill set for BDSM play. It’s particularly useful in my situation as a dominant/top with a significantly bigger, taller, stronger submissive/bottom.

I haven’t run across much information on the topic, but that’s probably because knowledge of pressure points and training in joint manipulation are skills best learned in formal classes or a workshop environment. (But that won’t stop me, of course… I’ll share a little of what I know in my next post.)

I took karate lessons as a kid and continued up through my early twenties. As I got older and progressed through the ranks, the percentages of females to males in my classes became increasingly more disproportionate. Over time, lots of girls dropped out (due to disinterest and/or interest in other activities) and often, I was the only girl in classes full of boys.

When I was ready for serious tournament competition in my teens, there simply weren’t enough women at my level to compete against. If I wanted to compete, I had to enter the men’s divisions… so that’s what I did.

In forms — where you perform a series of moves alone on the floor and are judged on your execution and technique — I had no problem. A girl can execute a flawless kick or a throw a technically perfect punch as well as any boy.

But matches — sparring or grappling events where two competitors enter the ring and compete against each other — were much more difficult. The boys I went up against were taller, stronger, and just generally bigger than I was.

Because the boys had longer limbs, it was far easier for them to land a blow and earn a point than it was for me. They could reach me with a fist or foot while keeping their head and torso at a safe distance (allowing them to score on me without making themselves vulnerable to being scored on). To land a kick or punch to my opponent’s head or torso (the point scoring areas), I had to get in close, ultimately leaving myself open to being scored on.

bdsm-bedroom-grapplingBesides the issue of height and limb-length, there was also the issue of strength. While sparring wasn’t full contact, there was contact. Being kicked or punched, even at 25% strength, even with hand and foot pads… it still fucking hurts.

Over time, I got better — learning to fight smarter and not harder, and learning to be patient and let my opponent come to me. I learned to hold my own, but overall, I lost far more matches than I won.

While my smaller size and lesser strength were huge disadvantages in sparring, in grappling, I was able use those factors to my advantage, ultimately using my opponents size and strength against them.

From my experience in sparring, I already knew that if I tried to match the boys on strength, I’d get my ass kicked and end up pinned before I had a chance. So, from the very beginning of my training in grappling and in-fighting (or ground fighting), I took a different approach.

Instead of focusing on techniques that required brute strength, I studied pressure points, practiced joint manipulation and joint locks, and learned the basic principles of leverage and balance.

In short, I learned how to use small, simple techniques to control an opponent’s body and use their size to my advantage, essentially, working with their size and weight instead of struggling against it.

Below are clips of a couple of useful, very easy techniques I used in the ring a long, long time ago. While they’re still good to know for the purposes of self-defense, these days, most of my grappling practice happens in the bedroom. ;)

If you’re smaller, you have to fight smarter.

 

You don’t need to flip an opponent over, you can just drop them to their knees. :)

 

Go to to 0:16 for the weak link principle to break free from a wrist grab.

 

In my next post, I’ll share a little information about pressure points that I’ve found useful in bedroom grappling scenarios. :)

 

  11 Responses to “I’m a ninja!”

  1. Okay now I not only want to meet you for drinks but I want to meet up and grapple with you. *smiles mischievously* Oh by the way I am not sure since its been a while since you were in karate but there are new rules for grappling..women must now grapple completely nude. *winks and giggles*

    I am like you in that I am shorter and smaller than most so I had to learn how to overcome that in my karate class. Luckily I have a great sensei. I really like grappling too because there are so many techniques you can use that can take your opponent by surprise. I really like the Kamura Arm Bar when you are caught underneath your opponent. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m3WfFjCSsJw

    “Besides the issue of height and limb-length, there was also the issue of strength. While sparring wasn’t full contact, there was contact. Being kicked or punched, even at 25% strength, even with hand and foot pads… it still fucking hurts.”

    Yes it does. I have been through corrections training and other training too so I am used to putting my body through punishment; however, it does hurt. I cringe more though when I see it happen with my daughter. Her first match she took a kick to the face and it was everything I could do not to run in the ring check on her and smack the child. *chuckles* She took it like a champ though!

    I look forward to your post on grappling in the bedroom *wiggles eyebrows*

    Respectfully,
    mysticlez

    • since its been a while since you were in karate but there are new rules for grappling..women must now grapple completely nude

      Really? I hadn’t heard about any new rules… *squints suspiciously*

      Yes it does. I have been through corrections training and other training too so I am used to putting my body through punishment; however, it does hurt.

      I’ve broken a lot of bones in my lifetime… though I’m happy to report I’ve done more breaking than been broken (of course, I kept mental stats on such things!)

      I look forward to your post on grappling in the bedroom *wiggles eyebrows*

      Ha! While that would be interesting, I think the forthcoming post will be more about pressure points — how people choose to use that information will be up to them. :)

  2. My profession involves pressure points & joint manipulation. My boy will tell you that it makes a very special type of Domme when you know she can cause instantaneous pain with her fingertips ;-)

    Of course I can’t draw to save my life so you have me beat there!

  3. Humm… I just had an idea… I’ll sign up for a martial arts class and get beaten up by girls ! How have I never thought of that ?

    Thanks, DD!

    • Ha! I ran self-defense classes one year in college. I put up flyers asking male volunteers to show up for use as demos and practice dummies. That first class, more than three times as many males showed up as females… it was hilarious and awesome!

  4. “I’ve had extensive training in joint manipulation. Resistance is futile…”

    This made me snort my coffee. Thanks.

  5. Great post!
    I’m excited about a Domme that is proficient in martial arts and willing to use her skills against her submissives. And I’m really impressed about your knowledge of pressure points and joint locks. Seems always like magic to me if one can subdue a larger opponent with a little pinch or twist.

    • Great post! I’m excited about a Domme that is proficient in martial arts and willing to use her skills against her submissives.

      Thank you, Michael. :)

      Seems always like magic to me if one can subdue a larger opponent with a little pinch or twist.

      Ha! Yes. Lack of size and strength (comparatively) is a bit of an issue, but a little knowledge helps to even the playing field (hmm… “even” isn’t the right word…) ;)

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