Jul 292013
after the secret blog is no longer secret

Today’s reader question comes from Ermegarde Farnsworth from Yonkers, New York. Okay, fine, it was anonymous, but I’ve always liked the name “Ermengarde” — maybe it’s because I was forced to watch Hello Dolly! as a child… Since J’s discovery of your blog, have you had any awkward or uncomfortable confrontations about a post that was not intended for his eyes? On the flip side, have there been any serendipitous moments? See what you’ve done? Now you’ve gone and given me an opportunity to reflect on what’s changed since J started reading. And worse, I feel compelled to give a … [read more]

Jul 252013
kinks and fetishes: what's the difference?

What’s the difference between kinks and fetishes? The words ‘kink’ and ‘fetish’ are often used colloquially and interchangeably. There’s no universally agreed-upon definition of each, and while there is some consensus about what makes them different, it’s not clear where a kink ends and a fetish begins. According to the OED, there is a difference. kinky, adj. and n.: Someone who is kinky is “a sexually abnormal person; one who practices sexual perversions”[1]; a kinky individual is “given to sexual behaviour regarded as strange or unconventional.”[2] A kinky object is “sexually provocative in an unconventional way.”[2] In other words, a … [read more]

Jul 222013
if I were a Bond girl

Today’s reader question comes from SPECTRE Sub from Fuckmenistan [redacted] who wants to know what my “Bond girl” character name would be. Full disclosure: I’ve never watched a James Bond film nor have I read the novels. I understand the premise (spies, shagging, shaken martinis), I recognize some of the names (Pussy Fingerbang, Holly Goldentwat, and Tits McNipples, right?), and I’ve seen clips, but I’m not familiar with the specifics of plots or characters. With that said, I’m going to make some guesses and answer anyway… But first, let’s take a look at Spectre’s question, shall we? Hi DD, So … [read more]