I’ve had two ‘suitors’ during my life on the web — boys who read the blog and were smitten with me (or my writing) enough to want to know more. They charmed me with their compliments, wit, and humor, and they’re both smart, interesting, and persistent enough to have sustained my interest.
Both boys were forthcoming about wanting to meet me to see if something developed — they were (are) interested in the possibility of a romantic or sexual relationship. At the same time, they acknowledge I’m in a relationship and they’ve been respectful of that. Both boys wanted to be friends anyway, even without the possibility of anything more.
And so, I’ve developed correspondence friendships with both.
While they are friendships, there’s also mutual attraction (both boys are hot), and sometimes talk gets flirty and sexy. Yes, I’m with J, but flirting with people is fun — I like the attention and I enjoy being wanted. As long as it isn’t disrespectful to my relationship with J, I see no harm in it. And more important than all the sexy, fun, flirty stuff, after corresponding for so long, I consider both boys friends.
This was one boy’s response:
This was the other boy’s response:
Guess which boy I told to fuck off?
EDIT: Just to be perfectly clear, I’m not lining up potential dates for after J leaves. I don’t have boys waiting in the wings, and I have no plans to meet anyone. I’m with J, and I suspect my heart will be with J for some time even after I’m not with him anymore. It’s hard enough thinking of J leaving, let alone anything beyond it.
I realize my phrasing at the end — “Guess which boy I told to fuck off?” — suggested I had been making some sort of choice between the two. That’s not the case. I only posted the responses because I appreciated the sweet boy’s sweet response and because I was absolutely dumbfounded by the douchebaggery of the other. The contrast of the two was sorta mindblowing…