Jun 192013
 

Once again, my ass is popular… or at least, discussions of my ass… or asses in general. So now you know why shaving my asshole was an issue, right?

In some very thoughtful responses to my post on how I came to love ‘ass worship‘, quite a few commenters suggested they understood what I meant by ‘mind games.’ That idea has always been interesting to me (the navel-gazer that I am), and I was surprised at the showing of understanding, agreement, and support. I’m flipping the idea over in my brain and plan to write on it soon.

But for now, let’s focus on what I did expect… which was a question about the potentially squicky aspects of ass worship… linebreaksm

Analingus to Cunnilingus: Health Issues?

I considered addressing health issues in my last post, but I figured mentioning hygiene in a post in praise of ass-worship might detract from the actual praise part. :) Since I didn’t mention it, I expected someone would… That someone was Grumpyoldswitch, who asked:

Without wishing to poop the party, are there any known hygiene or health issues involved in performing analingus and cunnilingus during the same session?

Question (In Plain English): Is it bad to have someone lick your asshole and then lick your pussy?

Short Answer: Yes. (yes… but… explanations and TMI notes below…)


Goes Without Saying (But Worth Repeating): STIs and STDs

First, the biggest health risk (in any sexual contact) is the transmission of STIs. Common sense should tell you to get tested for STIs, STDs, IEDs, and WTFs.

Dumb Domme Personal Note
Personal Note (TMI) #1: J and I have both been tested, we are infection and disease-free, and we are currently monogamous.

The Obvious: Fecal Matter

The obvious hygienic issue is fecal matter.

For the record, fecal matter is actually “stored” in the colon, not in the rectum (the part closest to the anus). While traces of fecal matter can be present in the rectum and on/around the anus, luckily, those can be easily washed away.

So… you know, do that. Wash. Besides that, eat a fiber-rich diet, move your bowels and take a shower right before play. If you’re really concerned about cleanliness, use an enema or two (or four) before any anal action.

Dumb Domme Personal Note

Personal Note (TMI) #2: I take hygiene a little too far. When I realized my butt was going to be the focus of some attention, I overprepared. I didn’t eat solid food for two days beforehand. I’m not kidding. Then, the day I was going to see J, I used two OTC enemas in the morning, and two more before we got naked. Post enemas and prenakedness, I took a shower and cleaned thoroughly. Really. Fucking. Thoroughly. (Side note: do not use a sisal loofah on your anus… it’s not a good idea. Don’t ask me how I know.)

Unfortunately, ‘rimming’ didn’t happen that night, due in part to the fact that I had NO food in my system, had a few alcoholic drinks, and things went south from there (things went south in the bad way… not in the good way).

Less Obvious: Bacteria

The less obvious issue in following oral-anal contact with oral-genital contact is bacteria (particularly when the receiver is female/has a pussy).

The vagina is a curious little ecosystem. When healthy, the vagina has proper levels of good bacteria and it’s completely self cleaning. When you introduce ‘bad’ bacteria into the ecosystem, the whole thing can get thrown out of whack. That sort of ‘bad’ bacteria can come from a sex toy, a finger, a penis, a vegetable, whatever. To lessen the risk of transmitting bad bacteria, clean your sex toys, fingers, cock, vegetables (whatever) well, with hot water and antibacterial soap (you can even boil some sex toys… but not fingers… don’t boil your fingers). But, even if you wash meticulously with antibacterial soap and hot water, bacteria can still be introduced into the vagina (since its impossible to fuck in a completely sterilized environment).

And yes, ‘bad’ bacteria exists in the rectum and around the anus. No matter how little you eat, no matter how much you wash, and no matter how many enemas you use, the bacteria is still going to be there.

The biggest bacterial risk of moving from analingus to cunnilingus is introducing bad bacteria — E. coli specifically — into the vagina. It can cause bacterial vaginosis, yeast infections, and even urinary tract infections.

To avoid these risks, the best course of action is to perform cunnilingus first, and then move on to analingus. If you want to switch back and forth, numerous sources suggest that after analingus, the ‘giver’ should rinse her or his mouth with an antibacterial mouthwash (the stingy kind with alcohol it it) for at least 60 seconds, and of course, the giver should also wash her or his face, hands, and anything else that came into contact with the receivers anus or rectum with hot water and antibacterial soap (I also recommend using a good stiff nail brush for scrubbing around cuticles and under the nails).

Dumb Domme Personal Note
Personal Note (TMI) #3: I’m meticulous about washing and using enemas, and thankfully, I’m not prone to bacterial vaginosis, yeast infections, or urinary tract infections. While I realize there’s a risk, I don’t care that J moves from my cunt to my ass and back again. It’s a risk I’m willing to take.

Related: You Kiss Your Domme with that Mouth?

As if this post weren’t squicky enough, it’s important to also remember there’s a risk of other sorts of nasty infections and illnesses involved in moving from oral-anal contact (rimming) to oral-oral contact (kissing) — those nasties include salmonella, shigella, and giardia. The best practice is to use mouthwash, antibacterial soap… all that.

Dumb Domme Personal Note
Personal Note (TMI) #4: I kiss him after. Again, I’m meticulous about washing, and while I know there’s bacteria, for whatever reason, kissing him after doesn’t bother me in the least. (And besides, putting his mouth on my ass doesn’t bother him… so why should putting my mouth on his mouth bother me?) Go ahead, judge me. While you do that, I’ll be enjoying hot kinky sex…

Bottom Lines:

Talk about your bottoms, your lines, and your bottom lines with your partner(s). Get tested and educate yourself. Then, find yourself a nice boy and sit on his face…*

Dumb Domme Personal Note
Personal Note (TMI) #5: J and I exchange(d) a lot of our sex preferences and ‘new ideas’ in the form of written fantasies. Way early on, when J was floating the idea of ass worship, in one of his fantasies, he actually wrote out the process of going to brush his teeth, wash his face, and use mouthwash after licking my asshole. Like, he wrote it into the fantasy. How sweet and adorable and responsible is that?  :)

 


*Alternatively: find yourself a nice girl and sit on her face, or find yourself a nice girl and get to licking, or find yourself a nice boy and get to licking…

  24 Responses to “analingus to cunnilingus: health issues and TMI”

  1. “(you can even boil some sex toys… but not fingers… don’t boil your fingers)”

    …oops. NOW you tell me that, D.

    [also, I’m lucky that I chose to go with Tantus as my first toy. Without being able to boil a toy, I’d be a nervous wreck and thinking the toy was never *really* clean…]

    Seriously, though, love this post. Though I’m not in a relationship, I’ve been going through a gradually growing interest in anal play. *glares at Nikki through the interwebs, wherever she is at the moment* Anyway, seeing all of this written out is not only amusing, but very informative, as you tend to be. I appreciate that you’re willing to talk a little squick and some TMI to note your transformation, but also help spread knowledge to others.

    As always, thanks for this!

    • Without being able to boil a toy, I’d be a nervous wreck and thinking the toy was never *really* clean…

      You know, oddly, I’m nervous about boiling toys… not because I’m concerned about the toys, but because… what do you boil them in? I don’t want to boil them in my soup pot, because, you know, I make soup in it. My thinking is the same with dishwashers — I know some people put their toys in there and run them through a wash cycle, but I just can’t bring myself to do it.

      Heck, I threw away a $150 sonic toothbrush because part of it touched a butt plug. I have no idea why that squicks me, but kissing a guy who just had his tongue up my ass doesn’t bother me at all.

      I appreciate that you’re willing to talk a little squick and some TMI to note your transformation, but also help spread knowledge to others.

      Thanks, Britt. I spread both knowledge and stupidity, but I never ever spread STIs, STDs, IEDs, or WTFs. :)

  2. Oh that was YOU watching me, Britt! I felt it! I felt it hard. Heh…hard.

    Yes, yes, I love me some anal play. ALL anal play. Except for scat and fisting, because NO. Anyway, I’m a total OCD clean freak when it comes to my anal cavity. Mr. K swears I never poop. And he’s right, I don’t because I’m a southern lady. BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

    *ahem*

    I have no issues with Mr. K licking my ass, then pussy, then ass, then my pussy again. You get the picture. I also understand there are risks any time anything anal is involved and we NEVER go ass to pussy. We made that mistake once in the heat of the moment and have mercy. Things got ugly. With analingus, though, you’re not venturing into the rectum so it’s less risky. There’s still a risk. There is ALWAYS a risk. But I’m willing to chance it. I’m also religious about using wipes and peeing after anal play which I think helps.

    • Mr. K swears I never poop. And he’s right, I don’t because I’m a southern lady.

      I’ve never admitted it myself… and I won’t!

      I also understand there are risks any time anything anal is involved and we NEVER go ass to pussy. We made that mistake once in the heat of the moment and have mercy. Things got ugly.

      I’m ALL about anal, but only as the fucker… not the fuckee… :)

  3. Just to add to the TMI bit, I’ve heard a lot more (hilarious and terrible) stories about fecal matter issues from those who *have* done enemas prior to arse play than those who haven’t. The main reason being that many have no experience with enemas and don’t know how their body will react, so they end up with (sorry!!) runny liquid fecal-ish matter leaking out at inopportune moments and that’s definitely not good for sexy times.

    SO if you’re (general newbie you) going to do it, I’d advise that you get to know how your body handles it well before preparing for play, and adjust accordingly.

    You’re welcome for the imagery!

    Ferns
    For the record, I’ve never required that my submissive do it prior to arse play, and only had one who did

    • I’ve heard a lot more (hilarious and terrible) stories about fecal matter issues from those who *have* done enemas prior to arse play than those who haven’t.

      Whoa. I have not heard such things, but then again, I don’t hear a lot of enema stories in general. For that, I am thankful. :)

  4. Oops, meant to delete that last sentence as kind of off topic, but I guess it’s still kind of relevant.

    Ferns

    • It is relevant. :) And interesting. It’s both.

      I don’t require enemas, but boy does them anyway. I appreciate it, but I don’t know that I’d require it either.

  5. “Side note: do not use a sisal loofah on your anus… it’s not a good idea. Don’t ask me how I know.”

    Fucking hilarious. I cannot stop laughing. Nor can I eradicate the image from my mind. Congratulations. You have made one old gaffer ridiculously happy.

    • Fucking hilarious. I cannot stop laughing. Nor can I eradicate the image from my mind. Congratulations. You have made one old gaffer ridiculously happy.

      Once again, I’m thankful that my disaster-prone anus brings so much joy to so many people. :)

  6. Thanks for the informative and entertaining article. I feel like we’ve gotten to the bottom of this now.

    • I hope so… I’m getting sick of spending so much time thinking about my own asshole. :)

      I mean, I know I’m a navel-gazer, but I’m turning into an asshole-gazer…

  7. I thought all of your tips were standard common sense. The four enemas made me laugh so hard – I have done that. There are (also) enemas that do NOT cause a laxative effect. I believe they’re packaged as cleansing enemas. I find those are best for pre-sex play to avoid anal leakage.

    Lastly, don’t forget you can put condoms on your sex toys pre-anal. Any bacteria gets peeled off with th condom. I prefer this method. I’ve found with silicon toys, once they’ve been in my bum, that ghost of a scent seems to linger on them FOREVER.

    Thanks for this post. Information that helps people have less shame about the things that give them pleasure is a plus for humanity.

    • There are (also) enemas that do NOT cause a laxative effect. I believe they’re packaged as cleansing enemas.

      Hmmm… I’ll have to look into this. I think all OTC enemas are the same… the cleansing is in the laxative effect. Right?

      Lastly, don’t forget you can put condoms on your sex toys pre-anal.

      I don’t do this when I stick stuff in boy’s ass. I did once or twice, but when I fucked him, it sounded like I was rustling plastic grocery bags. I haven’t noticed any lingering scent after we clean the butt toys, but then again, I don’t routinely sniff them. Dammit… now I’m going to have to sniff them.

      Thanks a lot, night owl. :)

      • http://www.fleetnaturals.com/faqs.php explains the difference between cleansing enemas vs laxative enemas. The cleansing enemas are usually a wee bit more expensive, but if you want the avoid that anal leakage effect, it’s worth the price. I suppose the most cost effective method is to purchase an enema bag, hose and nozzle and become a DIY gal, but I’ve never wanted to lug an enema bag to a hotel room. :-)

  8. The best part of this post was the part with J and how he wrote the act of brushing his teeth and washing his face into the fantasy. It sounds like something I easily could have done. Fantasy is all well and good, but it’s easier to believe if the details is right. Then you know it’s thoroughly thought out. Personally, I like that kind of stuff.

    Oh, and I liked the rest of the post too, of course.

    /Raven

    • The best part of this post was the part with J and how he wrote the act of brushing his teeth and washing his face into the fantasy.

      I know, right? It was adorable. :)

      Fantasy is all well and good, but it’s easier to believe if the details is right. Then you know it’s thoroughly thought out.

      Yes to this! I actually struggle to fantasize about anything outside of the realm of reality… if the logistics of positions are impossible, or the details aren’t carefully thought-through, I’m just not turned on by it. It seems I overthink… even in my own fantasies. :)

  9. Ah, the fine line between being a pure lady and having hot filthy sex.

  10. I have to say, of all the blogs I read, J is fast becoming one of my favourite (hidden) other halfs. Writing cleanliness and hygiene into a fantasy is utterly adorable and beautifully sensible.

    Also! thank you for all the notes and comments. I knew most of this, but it’s always good to refresh and remind yourself. I also wonder if using dental dams might alleviate some of the risks…?

    • J is fast becoming one of my favourite (hidden) other halfs. Writing cleanliness and hygiene into a fantasy is utterly adorable and beautifully sensible.

      He’s a pretty good other half! And yes, it was respectful and adorable. :)

      I also wonder if using dental dams might alleviate some of the risks…?

      I thought about mentioning these, but I have no experience with them, so I left it out. But yes, it’s worth looking into! Health and safety should always come first… :)

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