Jul 172012
 

For the time being, there won’t be any topping from the bottom, at least not from me.

In considering everyone’s thoughtful comments and about my responses to them, it’s pretty clear that it’s not something I am/we are ready for.

And because I want to have a sort of last word here, really, it has nothing to with me wanting to bottom. I have no desire to experience bottoming for it’s own sake. I have no desire to experience sensory deprivation, bondage, or anything else associated with bottoming. Honestly, I just want to come…. hard and often, and I thought some very qualified bottoming might be an option. It isn’t.

But hey… I came once and I will come again! Up with orgasms and all that.

As for everyone’s comments yesterday, thank you. I felt bad for responding to some of the comments with more questions and lots of “yes, but” statements. I can’t help it. I don’t expect that everyone responding is familiar with the whole backstory, so I often feel the need to supply details about the context and clarify my position and what I believe is my partner’s position. It’s one of the ways I’m most self-centered–I absolutely want to be understood and apparently, I cannot STFU until I feel that’s been achieved.

  3 Responses to “no topping from the bottom”

  1. To thine own self be true! I hooe your next post is about having a gazillion orgasms. :-)

  2. To thine own self be true! I hope your next post is about having a gazillion orgasms. :-)

  3. “I felt bad for responding to some of the comments with more questions and lots of “yes, but” statements. I can’t help it… I absolutely want to be understood and apparently, I cannot STFU until I feel that’s been achieved.”

    *laugh* I can sooo related.

    Blogs give us snippets of information, and we (of course) make a bunch of assumptions to fill in the gaps. Sometimes when I write posts, I am sooo tempted to put in a bunch of ‘and this, and that, and then these other things’ because I *know* that commenters are going to think x, y and z and THAT’S NOT RIGHT!!

    It can make me all ‘but but…’ in the comments too.

    The only way around it is for every single post to contain the entire backstory including my childhood, my relationship with my family, all my romantic liaisons, transcripts of every conversation I’ve ever had EVER, and signed notarised statements from all of my exes.

    I’m working on it.

    Ferns

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