Jul 282012
buy my love (dominate a Domme)

The Masocast podcast was one of the first resources I found when I was just starting to learn about BDSM. Since then, I’ve caught up on all the back episodes and listen to new episodes as soon as they come out. Axe’s guests come from a wide range of experience levels, backgrounds, roles, and perspectives–his interviews never fail to be informative and entertaining. Topics include sex, gender, relationships, erotica, BDSM, kink, fetishes, polyamory, play, professionals, bondage, toys and implements, psychology, history… (far too many to list here). If you haven’t heard The Masocast yet, go listen. You won’t be disappointed. … [read more]

Jul 232012
identity crisis?

I’m still out of town for business/pleasure/torture/fun. It’s not a great time for writing (I really should go to sleep–I’m exhausted), and conditions aren’t ideal (I might get faster wi-fi with two paper cups and a string). But, I heard something last night that made me revisit my blog identity crisis. Last night, I downloaded the latest Masocast episode, curled into bed, and intended to listen for a bit before going to sleep. Just a few minutes into the podcast, I heard my “name.”[1] I don’t think I’ve ever heard it spoken aloud before, and hearing it made me cringe … [read more]

Jul 222012
e[lust] #38

My piece, “Good Girl,” made the Top 3 this month!   Photo courtesy of Lucy and Alex of A Couple of Wankers Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #39? Start with the newly updated rules, come back August 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ Top 3 ~ Wrong On Every Level – “If you … [read more]

Jul 192012
I own you (love, romance, and D/s)

Over on Submissive in Seattle, Peroxide explained how he saw aspects of BDSM as not simply sexual, but romantic, beautiful, and loving. In particular, he discussed how he saw the potential for expressing love and romance through a D/s dynamic: …it can be expressed and reinforced in words, and tones and gestures. In the same way lover’s can express their love for each other, I see the potential for dominants and submissives to express their dynamic, and I see those expressions as being romantic.” He went on to say that the ownership dynamic makes him swoon, in part because “it … [read more]

Jul 172012

For the time being, there won’t be any topping from the bottom, at least not from me. In considering everyone’s thoughtful comments and about my responses to them, it’s pretty clear that it’s not something I am/we are ready for. And because I want to have a sort of last word here, really, it has nothing to with me wanting to bottom. I have no desire to experience bottoming for it’s own sake. I have no desire to experience sensory deprivation, bondage, or anything else associated with bottoming. Honestly, I just want to come…. hard and often, and I thought … [read more]