A couple of weeks ago, I asked J to come up with a few punishments we could use to help reinforce the rules. Weeks have passed, and since my request, J assured me that he was giving it some thought, but still, he hasn’t come up with anything.
I asked him to do it because I had trouble coming up with something I liked. Since he neglected to get back to me, or was unable to suggest anything, I’ve been trying to come up with something myself. Here are few categories and ideas I’ve ruled out:
Pain: J is a masochist, so a painful punishment wouldn’t really be a punishment at all.
Errands or chores: I like the idea of assigning an errand or meaningful chore because something productive comes out of it–it would help me in some way. However, he’s said that he wants to do these sorts of things for me, that he enjoys being helpful. Again, if he enjoys it, it isn’t a punishment. Even if he didn’t enjoy it, he’s supposed to be helpful and attentive anyway.
Meaningless or repetitive tasks: While I could make him hand write “I will not disappoint my Mistress” a thousand times, it’s unproductive, does me no good, and wastes time he could be doing something meaningful.
Humiliation: I’m not into publicly humiliating people, especially not someone I care about. When we’re out, I enjoy demonstrating some ownership, but in small ways–a whispered demand for a kiss, a little twisting or tugging on his cock under the table, pulling him close by the belt-loops… all things that might be mildly embarrassing if noticed, but certainly not humiliating.
So here’s my idea (my only idea): karaoke. (Stop laughing. I’m not kidding.)
Our taste in music overlaps in places, but I have to say that J is a little bit of a snob about all-in-good-fun pop music. I enjoy the occasional pop tune, particularly driving on warm nights with the windows rolled down and the top dropped (and I’m forced, as the music system in my car won’t recognize my mp3 player for some reason–so it’s radio for me, either pop music or NPR).
J doesn’t like pop music, and wouldn’t be caught dead listening to it, let alone singing it in public. So, I imagine he’d be genuinely annoyed and embarrassed by having to sing karaoke to some silly pop song. He’d hate it, which means it’s a punishment, and I like seeing him squirm, so I’ll enjoy it.
Plus, I enjoy singing in public (generally with an actual band) and I think karaoke is fun, so it might be a fun date night, which satisfies my want to make his punishment something productive.
Besides all that, J has never heard me sing. If he does, he fall madly in love with me… I’m sure of it.
For now I need to come up with a list of 3 or 4 karaoke-friendly songs that seem earnest enough (he has to take it seriously), but silly enough choices so that I’m adequately amused.