Which post should I submit for December’s e[lust]?
|dermarollers for BDSM||dealing with a bratty sub||I’m horny, not hungry|
Other women, the ones before me, have earned his submission — faster, harder, and maybe more intensely.
Whatever those women were, it was enough for him to give himself. Whatever he was, it enough for them to take what they wanted. He gave and they consumed — his pleasure and his pain, his thoughts, his words, and his submission.
But they never had his laughter. I’m sure of it.
The purity and simplicity as it erupts from his chest is unmistakably new and unequivocally mine.
I broke it from him. Something ripped him open, cleaved it from him, and set his laughter free.
That part of him — pure and without abandon — it belongs to me.
The women before me, they may have tied him tighter, beat him harder, used him more.
But I’ve done it better. The proof isn’t in a collar, or lasting marks, or in obedience that I’m not always skilled at inspiring.
The proof isn’t in whatever binds I’ve tied that hold him to me.
The proof is in his laughter, in his giving in and giving over. It’s in his letting go.
I don’t enjoy bratty behavior from spoiled children, obnoxious teenagers, entitled cats, or immature adults, and I certainly don’t enjoy ‘bratty’ behavior from a partner.
The idea of a partner acting like brat as some sort of role-play game is immensely distasteful to me. The whole *giggles* *grins* *tee hee* *wiggles bum* thing isn’t cute. That’s just me, though. Plenty of people enjoy it, but I don’t. I really, really don’t…. it makes me want to punch you in the face and tell you to grow the fuck up.
If being ‘bratty’ isn‘t part of a role playing game — if the ‘brattiness’ is genuine — then ‘brat’ = ‘immature asshole’, right?
Honestly, I find it difficult to tell whether people are role-playing, exaggerating ‘flirtatiously,’ manipulatively deploying behaviors, or whether they’re really just genuine ‘brats’ (assholes). Lucky for me, the distinctions make no difference. I don’t enjoy people who role-play being assholes, people who exaggerate their asshole-ness, people who strategically deploy asshole-like behaviors, or genuine, honest-to-goodness assholes.
I don’t enjoy those sorts of power games — I won’t ‘make’ you, ‘tame’ you, or ‘conquer’ you… because you aren’t a child, a lion, or an invading army. If a potential submissive wants to be treated like a child, a lion, or an invading army, then he should look elsewhere.
I’m a grown-ass woman with a career and a mortgage.
And if I’m fucking someone with any regularity, it’s safe to assume he’s a grown-ass man with communication skills adequate enough to tell me what he needs rather than acting like an asshole.
If he wants attention, he can ask for it. If he has a problem, he should tell me.
But if he’s into being tamed or forced, or if he’s into role-play, then he out of luck, because I’m not going ‘deal with’ bratty behavior.
Happy Thanksgiving. :)